A TOUGH WEEK

My Mum has instilled in me the belief that who we are as people shines through the most when our lives are the most trying.

That teaching has always been a hard one for me. I still have a long way to go.

This past week, I've seen Kesh go through some trying times. 

We were robbed. Someone broke into our home, while we had dinner with friends and went through our belongings - searching for something they must have desperately wanted. In the car, on the way home from dinner, Kesh and I held each others hands and told each other how much we loved each other, how thankful we were that our worlds came together. As we pulled into the driveway, I immediately noticed our gate was open. I only noticed because I shut it before getting into the car a few hours earlier.

My heart started beating a little faster as I walked inside. Some important things were taken. Some things worth a lot of money and some things worth much more than money. A camera Kesh had bought for me, with the intention of leading me on a new photographical journey was gone. The gift was only a few days old. The thing that stung the most though wasn't the camera...but what was in it. A roll of film, with images of Roo at the beach and with his feet touching the ocean for the very first time.

My most loved and used lens was also taken just days before I had an interstate wedding. I'm grateful to the amazing human, Dan O'Day, for lending me his. 

As we pieced our home back together, while finger printers dusted and locksmiths bolted on new locks, I listened to Kesh. She spoke of love and concern for the person who had come into our home and stolen our property. She was and still is concerned for this person. And she's taught me that I need to be to.

I'm grateful that I don't understand the motivating factors behind taking something from someone that doesn't belong to me. But, it's Kesh's sensitivity to others that gets me.

Just today, Kesh woke up with what appears to be mastitis. It's painful and makes being a Mum really hard. We went to the Doctors and on the way home, Kesh saw an old lady struggling to walk. We arrived to our own home and Kesh immediately put Roo back in the car and drove into town, looking for this lady.

Kesh didn't find her but she tried. She hoped to be able to help her.

In the hardest and most trying times, Kesh is incredible. Holy cow, I love this woman.

Here are a few images from our trip to Canberra to shoot Claire and Paul's wedding. I'll share that one really soon.


27 comments:

  1. Oh that was inspiring!. I need to be more like your lovely Kesh.

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  2. How devastating to come home to your home like that. Kesh does sound like a very wise and kind lady :)

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  3. I'm so sorry you were robbed. Particularly the film you lost. I hope Kesh is feeling better soon. Sometimes it pours.

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  4. Oh I have been thinking of you guys, such a rough time you have had. Kesh's strength is inspiring. Mastitis is awful, I hope Kesh is ok. Love to you all. xx

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  5. I am so sorry to hear that you were robbed, that such precious things were taken, it is such a horrible feeling, it has happened to me. But like Kesh has done it is important to try and gain a positive perspective from it, not to take it personally. I hope that Kesh will be feeling better soon.

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  6. Kesh is so caring and has such compassion. Sending you strength for trying times.

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  7. I still can't believe this happened. It's so funny, that even we're strangers, I've been thinking about your family a lot after hearing about this. I know that you all will be looked after but I still wish you all the best. Blessings and greetings from rainy Helsinki.

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  8. She truly is a superstar your wife.. a real angel on earth. Hope those boobs get better soon.. mastitis is a nasty one. Glad you went to the doctor already x

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  9. Such a tough time you've had! Amazing human spirit shining through it all though. Poor Kesh...mastitis is hideous. If you've got an electric toothbrush or shaver get her to hold it gently on the swollen area for a while just before a feed to help break up the blockage (sorry to talk breasts but it really, really helps!) Thinking of both of you. :) x

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  10. Wow. I'm in tears. Kesh has found such an incredible husband in you, Tim. The way you talk about her with such love is inspiring and heartwarming. Kesh, thank you for trying to make the world a better place. Some days it doesn't seem like there's anyone with such a heart left.
    I hope to have the honour of meeting you guys one day. xo

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  11. So sorry that you were robbed. Both of your hearts in the midst of it are so beautiful.

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  12. i am overwhelmed by you and your wife's heart of love in this very, very tough week. i know that i wouldn't be able to take it the some way, and i know my family wouldn't either. and this is helping me understand that for any time you go through, any situation, i will walk in love. this is beautiful. thank you.

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  13. These photos, and Kesh's attitude, are beautiful. You are both incredible. And I can tell that you are both wonderful parents--even if you can't necessarily always do what feels 'natural' in terms of breast feeding, I know you will always do what feels natural and right in terms of parenting, and really that is the most important thing.

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  14. Oh wow, this is tragic. I'm so sorry for you both but it's so amazing to see you two work together and love together. I hope the robber is found.

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  15. Kesh is such a beautiful human being. I'm always struggling, trying to be more understanding of other people, trying to practice empathy rather than judgment. She's an inspiration!

    And God bless you both. So glad you're safe. I don't know you personally but I feel like I do a tiny bit from your lovely posts about your work and family. I'm a big fan! Sending my thoughts and prayers to you guys, and hope Kesh gets better soon.

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  16. it is good to struggle and have extremes..and it is good to struggle together..hope your mastisis passes, it is very painful...your honesty is humbling.Mind each other there
    fransea

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  17. What a beautiful woman Kesh is! Roo is in such good hands having a mother with such a wonderful heart and a father with so much love in his heart.

    Sorry for your recent struggles. Sending my love and positive energy your way.

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  18. kesh is one amazing woman, and you on amazing photographer! what camera + lens were these taken on? film or is the red streaks from editing? i love them.

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  19. Being broken into is the worst feeling...

    Hope Kesh is on the mend soon, frozen cabbage leaves are so helpful in relieving mastitis pain.

    xx

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  20. We could all learn something from the strength and understanding both you and Kesh have. Roo is certainly in good hands! Lovely photos and thoughts as always.

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  21. Ah man that is the worst. Sorry to hear you loosing those precious things. But glad your most precious things were with you. Has Kesh tried cabbage leaves in her bras? My Mum always said that really helped her...Hope she is feeling better soon

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  22. Tim I'm so sorry this happened to you. That your amazing wife Kesh, is able to see beyond your own losses and feel compassion for this person is incredible. She is incredible as are you.

    They will come back to you - I'm sure.

    Gab x

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  23. Hi Tim,

    Reading this makes me feel the loss that you and Kesh experienced. I too experience being house robbed twice and the feeling was a lot of fear and confusion. I hope you guys will gain some peace of mind as soon as possible. xoxo

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  24. A beautiful post. Kesh sounds like an amazing woman, you express your thoughts and emotions so well.

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  25. I can't imagine being that compassionate just after being robbed. Truly impressive.

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  26. Wow, how inspiring to have a person in your life who searches to help others even in the most difficult of times.
    We were also robbed mid year and like you it was a real mix of things that were worth a lot and then things that would mean near to nothing to someone else (finanically of coarse) but mean everything to us (our external hard drive with three years+ worth of photos was stolen along with our laptop).
    I hope that you and Kesh can make your way through this hard time. Being robbed brings up so many emotions, but it sounds like you are working through it all beautifully together.
    Take care.

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